Basia and Gary’s Story Posted on February 15, 2016February 25, 2018 by Carly du Toit “I was pacing the lounge room floor feeding Grayce when I heard a car door slam out the front. Just for a second, I thought he’d come home, that he had been out for dinner with the boys, that the last six months had disappeared. It felt nice, for one second, like it used to be. I hope there are other fleeting moments like that. Because just for a second, I was in that other life and I remembered how it felt to be happy. I lost my husband, Gary, to oesophageal cancer 19 days after we were married. Our third child, Grayce, was born four weeks later. Though our time together was short we managed to fit a lot of life into those years. We also had lots of quiet moments, just enjoying spending time with each other. He was very hands-on around the house and with the children. There was nothing he loved more than to potter around on the weekends doing the jobs he had listed during the week, fixing things and finding better ways of doing things and then we would have our coffee mid-morning sitting in the backyard. We would email each other every day at work – just a few words here and there, or an interesting article. I miss all the little things that made our lives so much fun. The touch of his skin, a thousand gestures. Gary’s battle with cancer started on the 2nd of July and lasted for twelve and a half weeks. As the cancer ate away at Gary, I thought he looked more beautiful. His spirit, grace and dignity shone through more with each passing day. He was the perfect patient. He never complained and would try and help me help him as much as possible, even trying to lift and move his legs with his hands, and I would tell him off each time. That’s why we decided to call our daughter Grayce with a ‘y’ – grace for how much of it shone through him during this battle. The four letters of Gary’s name are carried on in the name of his daughter. That was his next goal, and what he told the doctors at his last oncology appointment. He wanted to meet his daughter. In the end I couldn’t ask it of him. I knew he could hear everything I was saying. I lay down on the bed next to him and put his right hand on top of my belly. I told him I loved him so. I said, ‘I don’t want to let you go but I have to. It’s time for you to go.’ He opened his eyes and deliberately blinked at me for the first time in hours. Then he took two more breaths and went. I still cannot bring myself to stretch out across the whole bed. It will mean finally admitting to myself that he won’t be riding his bike home and pushing it through the open door. That he won’t be bending down to hug the kids as they come running to greet him, squealing with delight. I know those things cannot happen but I still see them. I wish them. I live them in my head. They say memories are golden. Well maybe that’s true, but I never wanted memories, I only wanted you.” – ACRF Supporter, Basia We can’t bring Basia’s husband back to her but we can stand beside her while she continues to battle cancer through supporting research. To help her in her mission to protect others from having to go through what she went through click below. DONATE NOW
Making a Difference in Michael’s Name Posted on October 15, 2015March 13, 2018 by Carly du Toit “My family has been touched by cancer a few times, but the two that hurt the most were the loss of my mother and then my husband. My mother was recently retired when she told me she had found a lump in her breast. After lots of convincing, my sisters and I finally got her to visit the doctor. What she hadn’t told us was that she had first noticed the lump six months ago and by then it had grown extremely large. This was 20 years ago and there weren’t many options available to her at the time. After fighting through 15 months of gruelling treatment she sadly lost her battle with breast cancer. Years later, Michael, my wonderful husband and the father of our four sons was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer at 54 years old. We were really shocked as he had always enjoyed good health and was not showing any symptoms other than an itchy feeling under the skin. Our doctor however, did not suspect good news and the blood test proved it. Michael endured a lot to try and beat the cancer. He went through one and a half rounds of chemo and underwent a very high risk operation called a Whipple procedure. Thankfully he made it through but it was a long, hard road to recovery after the extensive surgery. Thanks to the expertise of the doctors and their teams things began to look more positive, but we were only able to spend an extra 22 months with Michael before he passed away at 56 years old. I donate in Michael’s name each month and hope that my little bit will make a difference so we can find a cure for all cancers. I chose to support the Australian Cancer Research Foundation because it’s a non-profit organisation that awards grants to the most ground-breaking research teams in Australia. I know my donations will help cancer researchers to continue fast-tracking discoveries for the future.” – Jannelle Scerri, Regular Giver of the Month Learn more about becoming a regular giver. Share your story
Remembering Rosemary Posted on September 21, 2015March 14, 2018 by Carly du Toit “In the UK in 1998, my twin sister, Rosemary discovered a lump on her breast and was diagnosed with breast cancer at only 38 years old. Rosemary and her husband were busy parents with four kids – two teenagers Rachel and Tommy, an 11 year old daughter, Jenny and a 9 year old son, Sam. Her illness was extremely hard on the whole family. We felt powerless as we watched her endure so much pain and distress at the thought of leaving her children. Rosemary fought courageously and was an inspiration to her community. Her friends and neighbours rallied to support the family during their time of need. The locals made renovations to their house to make her life easier and raised money to send her on a trip to visit me in Australia. This was one of the happiest months of my life, we shared precious time reconnecting and reminiscing about our childhood. It was heart-warming to know that so many people were offering a helping hand where they could. Wednesdays became known as ‘Rosemary Day’ in the area and each week, for three whole years, a group of ladies would take her out for the day. They would visit beautiful and interesting places and then have dinner together at their favourite restaurant. After five years of suffering Rosemary sadly lost her battle on her daughter’s 11th birthday. It is now a bittersweet day for the family and each year on the anniversary the four children meet in the church garden to celebrate their mother. The two girls also “Run for Rosemary” in Mother’s Day fundraising marathons. As her twin sister I feel her loss greatly, it’s very upsetting for me knowing that she did not get to see her children grow up or meet her grandchildren. I know that Rosemary would be so proud of her family and how much they have cared for each other. Over the years, cancer has continued to touch the lives of friends and others around me. A couple of years ago my husband and I realised the importance of cancer research first hand when he was diagnosed with melanoma and took part in a research trial. He has since developed kidney cancer and is being treated with targeted immune therapy which would not have been possible a few years ago. I often think back to the time when Rosemary developed cancer and appreciate all the progress that has been made since then. I support the ACRF with a monthly donation and have left a bequest in my will. I know my donations go towards helping the ACRF fund the necessary equipment that allows researchers to make many more life-saving discoveries. I hope that together we can spare many families the heartbreak of losing their loved ones in the future.” ACRF Regular Giver of the Month, Ann Smith Learn more about becoming a regular giver. Share your story
No hair don’t care – brave supporters lose their locks for cancer research Posted on June 5, 2015March 14, 2018 by Carly du Toit This inspiring group of individuals won’t have to worry about hat hair under their beanies this winter. They’ve faced the scissors in honour of those who have had to face cancer and in doing so have helped shave years off of cancer research. The O’Neil family raised an incredible $10,000 and lopped off an equally impressive amount of hair at an event that honoured their mum. We all owe a big thank you to this family of legends for their most generous act of support. Joining them, Angela from Bowral in the Southern highlands made the decision to shave her hair off on her grandpa’s birthday. “My grandfather was the most amazing kind hearted man. He lost the love of his life to this disease and had to then face it on his own so this was my way of honour them both.” Meanwhile in Melbourne the ReachLocal team embarked on a race like no other. They were let loose on the town to carry out a mission that would prove themselves against their in-house rivals and raise money and awareness for cancer research. The winning team had the honour of cutting the Learning Program Manager’s gorgeous long locks and were pretty excited about it (as you can see!). Everyone came out feeling like champions in the end when they discovered that they smashed their fundraising target. Well done all! We are humbled by your efforts. If these superstars have inspired you and you want go bare under your beanie this winter find out more by clicking here.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row] Share your story
#NoMakeUpSelfie campaign for cancer research Posted on March 21, 2014February 25, 2018 by Carly du Toit In just a few days we were overwhelmed with support for the #NoMakeUpSelfie campaign for cancer research. The power of social media is incredible! In just over a week the #NoMakeUpSelfie supporters helped raise over $25,000 for cancer research in Australia! The #NoMakeUpSelfie campaign for cancer research was one of the biggest viral social media campaigns for 2014. Women all over the world are posting makeup-free selfies online with the hashtag #nomakeupselfie, before making a donation to cancer research, and spreading the word by nominating their friends to do the same. The campaign started over in the UK with Cancer Research UK using the movement to raise vital dollars for cancer research – and now it has reached Australian shores! Continue reading “#NoMakeUpSelfie campaign for cancer research”
This is why we fight. Posted on June 26, 2013February 25, 2018 by Carly du Toit At the Australian Cancer Research Foundation we rarely need a reminder, but every so often we speak at length to a supporter like Basia Andrews, who recently lost her husband to cancer, and a shock goes through our organisation. This is what we’re fighting for. “Gary’s battle with cancer started on the 2nd July and lasted for twelve and a half weeks,” Basia said. “I miss all the little things that made our lives so much fun. A thousand little things, the touch of his skin, a thousand gestures.” “As the cancer ate away at Gary I thought he looked more beautiful. His spirit, grace and dignity shone through more with each passing day…” YOU CAN READ BASIA’S STORY HERE This is why we fight – to prevent tragedy, to give hope and, ultimately, to save lives through research. Please click below to read more. Continue reading “This is why we fight.”
London calling for cancer research Posted on April 12, 2013February 25, 2018 by Carly du Toit Believe it or not, Anouska Zerna (Noosh) really does like running! And next week she will be running 42.2km in support of the ACRF and world-class cancer research. We wish Noosh the very best as she jets off to England on Monday to compete in the London Marathon – a goal she set for herself 7 years ago! Noosh told us “There is definitely something in it and, aside from the post run highs and slender thighs, for me that something is a goal I have harboured for a long time – the London Marathon.” Continue reading “London calling for cancer research”
